Ive been dating a girl for a while, she had a crush on me until she met her ex boyfriend a year ago they recently broke up about 2 months ago. Anyways we have good chemistry, and she lives no more than a few blocks away. Im taking her to the beach on saturday and another date on sunday. But im getting tired of always taking her on dates and wasiting my time when i could just next her and move on. So is there a time when you can just ask a girl if shes interested without making it awkward.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Asking a girl if shes interested?
- Thread starter mtlwlu
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If you have to ask, you're mising the entire point of this site. Your happiness depends on her saying "yes" or "no". You should be doing everything you want to make yourself happy, and she should come along for the ride.mtlwlu said:
nismo-4
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You better take the initiative!
Bible_Belt
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kiss her
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
From my personal experience and everything I've read, never ask a girl directly if she's "interested." You have to play the game like everybody else and figure it out for yourself by reading her or going for broke and hoping she reciprocates.
true romance
Don Juan
if yo went out with her and you did not flirt then she put in you in friend zone
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
The Sperminator
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NEVER ASK HER THAT EVER!!! Do what everyone else said. Flirt, hold hands, make a move.
Vlad the Impaler
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Don't ask her that question.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.