Ive been dating a girl for a while, she had a crush on me until she met her ex boyfriend a year ago they recently broke up about 2 months ago. Anyways we have good chemistry, and she lives no more than a few blocks away. Im taking her to the beach on saturday and another date on sunday. But im getting tired of always taking her on dates and wasiting my time when i could just next her and move on. So is there a time when you can just ask a girl if shes interested without making it awkward.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Asking a girl if shes interested?
- Thread starter mtlwlu
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If you have to ask, you're mising the entire point of this site. Your happiness depends on her saying "yes" or "no". You should be doing everything you want to make yourself happy, and she should come along for the ride.mtlwlu said:
nismo-4
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You better take the initiative!
Bible_Belt
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kiss her
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
TheBucketOfTruth
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From my personal experience and everything I've read, never ask a girl directly if she's "interested." You have to play the game like everybody else and figure it out for yourself by reading her or going for broke and hoping she reciprocates.
true romance
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if yo went out with her and you did not flirt then she put in you in friend zone
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
The Sperminator
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NEVER ASK HER THAT EVER!!! Do what everyone else said. Flirt, hold hands, make a move.
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Don't ask her that question.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.