Ive been dating a girl for a while, she had a crush on me until she met her ex boyfriend a year ago they recently broke up about 2 months ago. Anyways we have good chemistry, and she lives no more than a few blocks away. Im taking her to the beach on saturday and another date on sunday. But im getting tired of always taking her on dates and wasiting my time when i could just next her and move on. So is there a time when you can just ask a girl if shes interested without making it awkward.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Asking a girl if shes interested?
- Thread starter mtlwlu
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If you have to ask, you're mising the entire point of this site. Your happiness depends on her saying "yes" or "no". You should be doing everything you want to make yourself happy, and she should come along for the ride.mtlwlu said:
nismo-4
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You better take the initiative!
Bible_Belt
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kiss her
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
From my personal experience and everything I've read, never ask a girl directly if she's "interested." You have to play the game like everybody else and figure it out for yourself by reading her or going for broke and hoping she reciprocates.
true romance
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if yo went out with her and you did not flirt then she put in you in friend zone
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
The Sperminator
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NEVER ASK HER THAT EVER!!! Do what everyone else said. Flirt, hold hands, make a move.
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Don't ask her that question.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
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