Ive been dating a girl for a while, she had a crush on me until she met her ex boyfriend a year ago they recently broke up about 2 months ago. Anyways we have good chemistry, and she lives no more than a few blocks away. Im taking her to the beach on saturday and another date on sunday. But im getting tired of always taking her on dates and wasiting my time when i could just next her and move on. So is there a time when you can just ask a girl if shes interested without making it awkward.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Asking a girl if shes interested?
- Thread starter mtlwlu
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you have to ask, you're mising the entire point of this site. Your happiness depends on her saying "yes" or "no". You should be doing everything you want to make yourself happy, and she should come along for the ride.mtlwlu said:
nismo-4
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You better take the initiative!
Bible_Belt
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kiss her
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
From my personal experience and everything I've read, never ask a girl directly if she's "interested." You have to play the game like everybody else and figure it out for yourself by reading her or going for broke and hoping she reciprocates.
true romance
Don Juan
if yo went out with her and you did not flirt then she put in you in friend zone
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
The Sperminator
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NEVER ASK HER THAT EVER!!! Do what everyone else said. Flirt, hold hands, make a move.
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Don't ask her that question.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.