To recap the situation, I asked twice my boss out, one time she said she was busy other time she wrote me she is in a happy relationship. I didn’t see any pics of guys in her Facebook, she probably has a fudk buddy and is playing the field.
there are many variables here, maybe she is not attracted to me , maybe she wants to keep distance because she is my boss, maybe she really has a guy in the back ground.
I heard what other people saying , I could have warmed her up a bit better but it’s too hard to do so when I don’t see her that often at the office and approach by texts small talk is like a mine field, one wrong step and I can get in trouble at work, so dirty flirting is off the table. That’s why I opted to ask her out straight.
Also I don’t want to waste my time seducing someone that one I’m not super interested and two something I know long run wouldn’t work because she has 3 kids and is my boss.
I think I probably got her by surprise when she sent me the last msg explaining she is happy with someone and all is good between us but she doesn’t want to go on a date with me. All I said was Good luck and she answered thanks. She probably thought I was gonna write her a novel explaining why we should date.
im gonna back off, avoid visits to the office and when I see her hi and bye and zero validation. She knows I want her and maybe seed is planted, she may come around when she sees I don’t give a dam anymore and didn’t cause any drama after her rejection. After all, all I did was sending 2 texts a week apart asking her out.