MatureDJ
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
article: The Dos and Don’ts of Dating Older Women
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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That article is a bunch of crap.
My rule: Never date women that comes with baggage.
Eg. Single mothers with kids, women that are past 35 and still not married, divorcees, women that have gone through multiple relationships, women with disorders and mentally and emotionally unstable, women that change jobs frequently, da da da.
Eg. Single mothers with kids, women that are past 35 and still not married, divorcees, women that have gone through multiple relationships, women with disorders and mentally and emotionally unstable, women that change jobs frequently, da da da.
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Well, that rules out a great amount of them. This advice isn't intended for creating relationships though, all your factors doesn't really matter that much just to have a few plates to fvck. Which is really the point here. The age difference aspect doesn't even apply that much to this advice, it's relevant regardless of their age.
The women you talk about are the type that either have no sex or they only do it when they are very sure it's going to be a relationship. There's no trying out or having sex for the fun of it, because that would eventually make them the type of woman you don't want.
So this applies for casual sex, not LTR. Your demands are fine for a LTR though.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.