MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Umm no. Most of that shyt if you do it, it kills the masculine feminine polarity and she'll lose attraction.
Umm no. Most of that shyt if you do it, it kills the masculine feminine polarity and she'll lose attraction.
Do you guys really believe doing dishes and laundry somehow lowers your masculinity? How weak is your frame that keeping your house in order lowers your attractiveness to a woman? Now, I'm not saying do everything for a woman, she should be putting in as much work and more if you're the one working fifty hours a week. But I think being sloppy at home is weak and that's why women start complaining. It's not about you pandering to her every whim, it's about you not handling your life. The masculine/feminine dynamic is not about housework/career, it's about the meta narrative of your relationship. It's about being a leader. If a woman is being unreasonable and you're doing all the work, then yeah, put your foot down and put it down hard. But don't hand over the running of your castle to the woman either. You are the leader, act like it.Terrible blue pill advice, lol. She needs the husband to do things that regain her interest level. Vacuuming the house, laundry, and pandering to every whim and she’ll lose respect for him.
It would be more beneficial to work on himself to raise her interest in attraction. Being lazy though will drive her interest level down fast in general...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The key is that even if you were okay with the other stuff you have to manage it because it truly can fvck up the masculine feminine polarity in the household.I'm fine throwing out the trash, deal with the garden or move heavy weights...basically anything that is too heavy or too dangerous for her.
But if something is boring or feminine, no way I'm gonna do it...never received complains about it btw.
Agree on that, sometime even if you wanna help, such help will be counterproductive for both.The key is that even if you were okay with the other stuff you have to manage it because it truly can fvck up the masculine feminine polarity in the household.
Some of us guys were trying to.be overly Supportive and did this by accident .
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.