MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Umm no. Most of that shyt if you do it, it kills the masculine feminine polarity and she'll lose attraction.
Umm no. Most of that shyt if you do it, it kills the masculine feminine polarity and she'll lose attraction.
Do you guys really believe doing dishes and laundry somehow lowers your masculinity? How weak is your frame that keeping your house in order lowers your attractiveness to a woman? Now, I'm not saying do everything for a woman, she should be putting in as much work and more if you're the one working fifty hours a week. But I think being sloppy at home is weak and that's why women start complaining. It's not about you pandering to her every whim, it's about you not handling your life. The masculine/feminine dynamic is not about housework/career, it's about the meta narrative of your relationship. It's about being a leader. If a woman is being unreasonable and you're doing all the work, then yeah, put your foot down and put it down hard. But don't hand over the running of your castle to the woman either. You are the leader, act like it.Terrible blue pill advice, lol. She needs the husband to do things that regain her interest level. Vacuuming the house, laundry, and pandering to every whim and she’ll lose respect for him.
It would be more beneficial to work on himself to raise her interest in attraction. Being lazy though will drive her interest level down fast in general...
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
The key is that even if you were okay with the other stuff you have to manage it because it truly can fvck up the masculine feminine polarity in the household.I'm fine throwing out the trash, deal with the garden or move heavy weights...basically anything that is too heavy or too dangerous for her.
But if something is boring or feminine, no way I'm gonna do it...never received complains about it btw.
Agree on that, sometime even if you wanna help, such help will be counterproductive for both.The key is that even if you were okay with the other stuff you have to manage it because it truly can fvck up the masculine feminine polarity in the household.
Some of us guys were trying to.be overly Supportive and did this by accident .
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.