Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
There's a long way to go before women give up the "you can have it all" feminist mantra. Women have been fed the "you can have it all" tripe for 50-60 years. "You Go Girl!" stuff has been around since Gloria Steinem made a name for herself in the Second Wave Feminism of the 1960s-1980s.my opinion: It would appear that this the start of the end of the destructive "you can have it all" femynist meme; perhaps chicks will become more pliable as proper wives?getpocket.com
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With today's environment they will get adrenal fatigue (long-term exhaustion) due to stress if they continue on the work/consumerist treadmill at their accustomed paces. "Burnout" isn't just psychological, it's physical as well.There's a long way to go before women give up the "you can have it all" feminist mantra. Women have been fed the "you can have it all" tripe for 50-60 years. "You Go Girl!" stuff has been around since Gloria Steinem made a name for herself in the Second Wave Feminism of the 1960s-1980s.
If you think back to 1900-1969, it was mainly men in the workforce with some unmarried and childless women in some traditionally feminine roles, such as nurse, administrative assistant, K-12 teacher, and medical assistant type roles. Men overwhelmingly dominated both blue collar/physical labor type roles and white collar/mental labor type roles.
When women entered the workforce, not too many of them were focused on blue collar/physical labor type roles. They instead moved from their administrative assistant type roles (think the secretarial pool in "Mad Men") into higher level individual contributor roles into middle to upper management roles in some cases.
What women didn't realize about white collar work is that it is exhausting in a different way compared to manual labor. White collar work involves long hours, stress, and often substance abuse. @LARaiders85 made a good thread about how white collar work impacts your well being. Women don't like the impact of it either, even less than men.
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Your corporate high status job (banking, wall street, finance, law, medicine, accounting) is destroying your SMV
If you are here then you value being attractive to women and having options in your choice of women, whatever the ultimate goal might be. Here is why the short term boost to your SMV from a well paying, high status job is the opposite of consistent, long term success with women: Looks: 1. Long...www.sosuave.net
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.