Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:What is this, Montel?
you consider yourself good looking...and more so that as a mate value for women.verysuave said:You've gone out with super hot chicks but then there was this chick who wasnt a pretty rejected you. Ever happened to you?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is true! I was out with a friend of mine and she's a "butter-face" (Everything about her is pretty but her face) We were having lunch and our waiter was a really cute guy!ryannath said:I think if they are below the guy that much, they kinda think they won't have what it takes, so they reject to protect their ego.
Really.. whew, i thought it was just me. Just wanted to also point this out that this thread is pretty informative. Yeah, im talking about you Deus ex Pianoforte. Efing trollmexican_player2 said:very suave the same **** happens to me!!!, i remember getting rejected by some 3s and 4s and then i got with the 8s that accept me, its fuked up
good analysisryannath said:ppens to me too. I get told I am good looking by women. (not bragging) I get rejected by 6's that are below me, but about 8's they seem to accept me. I think if they are below the guy that much, they kinda think they won't have what it takes, so they reject to protect their ego.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
:crackup:WaterTiger said:... I was out with a friend of mine and she's a "butter-face" (Everything about her is pretty but her face) ...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BluEyes said:Mabye you "good looking" guys aren't as good looking as u think u are...
There's a big difference between being a skinny good looking guy, and a muscular good looking guy.
Also, lest we forget, personality plays a large role.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.