Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:What is this, Montel?
you consider yourself good looking...and more so that as a mate value for women.verysuave said:You've gone out with super hot chicks but then there was this chick who wasnt a pretty rejected you. Ever happened to you?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is true! I was out with a friend of mine and she's a "butter-face" (Everything about her is pretty but her face) We were having lunch and our waiter was a really cute guy!ryannath said:I think if they are below the guy that much, they kinda think they won't have what it takes, so they reject to protect their ego.
Really.. whew, i thought it was just me. Just wanted to also point this out that this thread is pretty informative. Yeah, im talking about you Deus ex Pianoforte. Efing trollmexican_player2 said:very suave the same **** happens to me!!!, i remember getting rejected by some 3s and 4s and then i got with the 8s that accept me, its fuked up
good analysisryannath said:ppens to me too. I get told I am good looking by women. (not bragging) I get rejected by 6's that are below me, but about 8's they seem to accept me. I think if they are below the guy that much, they kinda think they won't have what it takes, so they reject to protect their ego.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
:crackup:WaterTiger said:... I was out with a friend of mine and she's a "butter-face" (Everything about her is pretty but her face) ...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BluEyes said:Mabye you "good looking" guys aren't as good looking as u think u are...
There's a big difference between being a skinny good looking guy, and a muscular good looking guy.
Also, lest we forget, personality plays a large role.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.