"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Are there any Women DJs here too?

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Hi I am just curious and willing to ask some questions from a different point of view like women too :)

Please acknowledge by posting on my thread :)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A lot of women are natural DJs if not all. Even if not all have sex with multiple guys at the same period of time, most of them will still keep their options.

Plus, for them I believe just having male friends (that she friendzoned) is considered DJing.
 

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A lot of women are natural DJs if not all. Even if not all have sex with multiple guys at the same period of time, most of them will still keep their options.

Plus, for them I believe just having male friends (that she friendzoned) is considered DJing.
Hi, what I mean women participating in this forum?
 

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Yes, we have women on this forum and they are not all brats. Well, most of the time anyway. @sazc @BeExcellent @penkitten . They have been paged.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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We get a few every now and then, but most of them end up leaving eventually, this forum must be boring for women.
 

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Woman participates in this forum should be considered as GOLD.

Imagine giving us secrets from the enemy that we battle everyday :D
 

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The women here contribute a different perspective than the men at times. Other times we agree strongly with what the men advise. The forum is a buffet. Many different people here from all over the world, different cultures, countries, religions, value systems, ages and strategies. And yes genders too. Bear in mind that the forum often offers wise advise, but that only you know the individual people you are interacting with. Only you know your situation.

Also, the search function is amazing. Use it because you might find that others have had the same or similar questions over the years and you can often reap the wisdom of sages past and present if you search for the topic about which you have questions.

Cheers.
 

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The women here contribute a different perspective than the men at times. Other times we agree strongly with what the men advise. The forum is a buffet. Many different people here from all over the world, different cultures, countries, religions, value systems, ages and strategies. And yes genders too. Bear in mind that the forum often offers wise advise, but that only you know the individual people you are interacting with. Only you know your situation.

Also, the search function is amazing. Use it because you might find that others have had the same or similar questions over the years and you can often reap the wisdom of sages past and present if you search for the topic about which you have questions.

Cheers.

My favorite women on the boards. She gives the best advice imo.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't put her on the pedestal bro.

Seriously, I like BEE is sound as a pound :)
Its my Cluster B. I really need to stop with the pedestal crap lol
 

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I can invite more hot women into this board if you guys like, but I don't want the forum to turn into Loveshack.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The women here contribute a different perspective than the men at times. Other times we agree strongly with what the men advise. The forum is a buffet. Many different people here from all over the world, different cultures, countries, religions, value systems, ages and strategies. And yes genders too. Bear in mind that the forum often offers wise advise, but that only you know the individual people you are interacting with. Only you know your situation.

Also, the search function is amazing. Use it because you might find that others have had the same or similar questions over the years and you can often reap the wisdom of sages past and present if you search for the topic about which you have questions.

Cheers.

Thanks! Will get in touch with you :)
 

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I like to chime in when I see a man blaming himself soley for the situation. That's upsetting.

Every now and then I have an opinion. I'll never claim that my opinion is 100 pct correct. Mostly its just a different vantage point that, hopefully, lends something to the dialogue.

I'll never be a flowery and feminine poster. That's not who I am. God forbid I come off as if I am on a pedestal of any sort, or present myself as perfect/sought after in any way. That's not true and I would be embarrassed.

I don't have it figured out, but I'm working on it and you gents are helping me.
 

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I don't really see the motivation for women, tbh. Other than attempting to monitor/moderate what we are saying, and getting some attention.
not a DJ or plate type.... not my cup of tea. but if people are having fun and it's consensual then good. long live hugh hefner! I read this forum sometimes because I like psychology. interesting 2010s changes with social media and massive variety of choice.

Woman participates in this forum should be considered as GOLD.

Imagine giving us secrets from the enemy that we battle everyday :D
to me, it's only an enemy if based on lies. saying you want an LTR when you don't. saying she's the only one when she's not. DJ doesn't have to be based on lies though. knight lifestyle (adventurous/ variety/ new experiences)..... that's a very common phase of life and can be a longterm preference. people should be able to build the life they want.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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