She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hi, what I mean women participating in this forum?A lot of women are natural DJs if not all. Even if not all have sex with multiple guys at the same period of time, most of them will still keep their options.
Plus, for them I believe just having male friends (that she friendzoned) is considered DJing.
No I dont think soHi, what I mean women participating in this forum?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
We used to have @LiveYourDream too! But she’s gone nowYes, we have women on this forum and they are not all brats. Well, most of the time anyway. @sazc @BeExcellent @penkitten . They have been paged.
The women here contribute a different perspective than the men at times. Other times we agree strongly with what the men advise. The forum is a buffet. Many different people here from all over the world, different cultures, countries, religions, value systems, ages and strategies. And yes genders too. Bear in mind that the forum often offers wise advise, but that only you know the individual people you are interacting with. Only you know your situation.
Also, the search function is amazing. Use it because you might find that others have had the same or similar questions over the years and you can often reap the wisdom of sages past and present if you search for the topic about which you have questions.
Cheers.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Its my Cluster B. I really need to stop with the pedestal crap lolDon't put her on the pedestal bro.
Seriously, I like BEE is sound as a pound![]()
I will take Sazc for the best opinion any day…My favorite women on the boards. She gives the best advice imo.
Damn skippy....they seek validation IMO...every one of them.Other than attempting to monitor/moderate what we are saying, and getting some attention.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The women here contribute a different perspective than the men at times. Other times we agree strongly with what the men advise. The forum is a buffet. Many different people here from all over the world, different cultures, countries, religions, value systems, ages and strategies. And yes genders too. Bear in mind that the forum often offers wise advise, but that only you know the individual people you are interacting with. Only you know your situation.
Also, the search function is amazing. Use it because you might find that others have had the same or similar questions over the years and you can often reap the wisdom of sages past and present if you search for the topic about which you have questions.
Cheers.
I'll have the fish.The forum is a buffet.
not a DJ or plate type.... not my cup of tea. but if people are having fun and it's consensual then good. long live hugh hefner! I read this forum sometimes because I like psychology. interesting 2010s changes with social media and massive variety of choice.I don't really see the motivation for women, tbh. Other than attempting to monitor/moderate what we are saying, and getting some attention.
to me, it's only an enemy if based on lies. saying you want an LTR when you don't. saying she's the only one when she's not. DJ doesn't have to be based on lies though. knight lifestyle (adventurous/ variety/ new experiences)..... that's a very common phase of life and can be a longterm preference. people should be able to build the life they want.Woman participates in this forum should be considered as GOLD.
Imagine giving us secrets from the enemy that we battle everyday![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.