"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are there any Women DJs here too?

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AJ84

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I enjoy reading the site, gaining some insight, offering some insight when I can, like most people who visit forums.

I personally read a lot of good posts and great advice from many of the guys in is forum, in particular around not being a sucker, self improvement, having realistic expectations, etc. Some of what I read here I think is useful for my own relationship with my husband. It's also interesting to get the perspective of men out in the dating pool, because I already know how women feel about dating and relationships. I see many parallels.

Sometimes I will read a post where I feel like a women's perspective would be helpful. I know, before I even post a reply, that there is a chance that someone will throw out an insult or make a dig about a woman posting, but I will post anyway and take it from there.

If someone doesn't want to read my posts because I don't have a penis that's cool. If someone doesn't agree and we get into a debate, well, that's part of the premise behind forums, people posting different views. Some people throw personal insults if they are not capable of debating in a mature way or are too sensitive to disagreements. For me, I try not to take it personally, because at the end of the day, it's a forum comprised of anonymous people a million times removed from each other's personal lives, and getting upset over it is an emotional investment that is best spent on people in one's personal life, not an anonymous forum.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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