Are relationships build?

[Gstring]

These women are talking about building a relationship after they meet the right person. Wtf do they mean?

So we go on a date, and we f and we see each other, then wtf, she gonna build relationship with me??

 

[SW15]

These women are talking about building a relationship after they meet the right person. Wtf do they mean?

So we go on a date, and we f and we see each other, then wtf, she gonna build relationship with me??

Some of it is cultural programming. Building some sort of extended relationship is a goal of a lot of people in the mating marketplace. Women talking about having relationships isn't weird.

It is less probable that you'll have a relationship if you have first date sex. However, some extended (3+ months) relationships have been formed after first date sex. I have pushed for fast sex over time. There are some in this community that believe in first date sex on all first dates. I don't believe first date sex is ideal sex if your goal is quality sex. It takes a little bit more time in most cases to have the first instance of sex between two people to be higher quality. There are rarer instances where two people will meet, spend 3 hours clothed together, then go have some amazing sex.

Patti Stanger, a high end matchmaker who had her own reality TV show for 5+ years, used to talk about not having sex before the determination of momogamy/exclusivity in relationships as a way of having longer lasting relationships. It's a valid idea. Now, let's look at her bias. Few matchmakers are successful. Most men who go this route end up wasting their money, but most men go to lower end matchmakers. Her clientele was mostly 35+ men who were more beta. Guys who have often been successful in the workplace but not the guys often attracting the most poontang based upon raw animal sexuality.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

These women are talking about building a relationship after they meet the right person. Wtf do they mean?

So we go on a date, and we f and we see each other, then wtf, she gonna build relationship with me??

Through time and shared experiences, ups and downs etc. I'm not sure how you are confused about it. The same way you build anything...one day at a time, one memory at a time and one experience at a time.

 

[Lookatu]

Women just generally wanna know if you're onboard with having a potential relationship to see where your mind is. It's a shyt test at best to make sure you're not going to pump and dump them by default, even if you liked them.

Just agree and amplify and continue onwards. Don't think too much of it.

 

[bat soup]

These women are talking about building a relationship after they meet the right person. Wtf do they mean?

So we go on a date, and we f and we see each other, then wtf, she gonna build relationship with me??

They mean that they want to enjoy a free meal before deciding whether to give you anything in return.

 

[darksprezzatura]

I think relationships are bought like you buy a TV set. You don't build a TV set after you've bought it? Do you?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

These women are talking about building a relationship after they meet the right person. Wtf do they mean?

If they are talking about building a relationship, then they aren't in a relationship.

If they are talking about WHEN they meet the right guy, they haven't met the right guy.

Which is hamster fantasizing/rationalizing that it's actually under their control.

Like building a relationship with the right guy is a step by step process like building a birdhouse.

Something that's conditional on meeting the "right guy," which is never going to happen.

Kind of like Hollywood limo drivers are going to build their acting career once they meet the right opportunity.

The only relationships these types of ladies will be building is with their vibrators and their cats.

 

[Epimanes]

The woman i am seeing... have great chemistry with... my heart is hardened from my ex but im nkt interested in sleeping around ... so .. ill keep this one... she fvcks me whenever i want... cooks with me.. cleans with me... says what i say goes.... asked for exclusivity. I said sure... but under my breath i say i will see where it goes. Shes a 7.5... but can spruce up to an 8.5... i lead... she follows. Medium brunette hair.. good job.. 125lbs ... 5'4.. so theres No need to be an azzhole.

That said... they dont all look to qualify you. Judge them by their behavior. In my case if her behavior changes..... so will the "relationship".... we will be exclusive and build a relationship until she fuks up...

Epi