Scorpio13c
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Just want to know from anyone who's experienced one & thoughts in general..
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Scorpio13c said:Are Pre Numps really worth it/valid?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Unless you're an attorney I'd be careful giving legal advice. Prenups are an "alternate marriage contract" that may avoid a presumed 50/50 split of community property at dissolution (I speak for CA here).Bible_Belt said:They only make sense if you carry assets into the marriage. Most people getting married are broke, so a prenup is pointless.
Even if you have a prenup, assets earned by both you and your spouse while married are considered joint marital property. The only exception is a very carefully managed business, set aside by a prenup, to which your wife never has any access or control.
You would also need a good prenup: fair to both sides, she gets a year or two of alimony if you split, and both you and her consult with separate attorneys (req'd in CA). If the prenup agreement does not look fair, the judge will throw it out.
From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it. For example, if you have a checking account from before the marriage with your name alone on it, say from an inheritance, you don't put any money earned during the marriage into it, it stays separate.Bible_Belt said:Prenups protect pre-marital assets from becoming joint marital property upon marriage. The only way to shelter income is to set a business aside in the prenup, keep all your income within the business, and never let her touch it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I agree, that is correct, but my point is that the extent to which the pre-marital assets are not comingled equals the level of protection provided on the prenup. One must be very careful.Zarky said:From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it.