Scorpio13c
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Just want to know from anyone who's experienced one & thoughts in general..
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Scorpio13c said:Are Pre Numps really worth it/valid?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Unless you're an attorney I'd be careful giving legal advice. Prenups are an "alternate marriage contract" that may avoid a presumed 50/50 split of community property at dissolution (I speak for CA here).Bible_Belt said:They only make sense if you carry assets into the marriage. Most people getting married are broke, so a prenup is pointless.
Even if you have a prenup, assets earned by both you and your spouse while married are considered joint marital property. The only exception is a very carefully managed business, set aside by a prenup, to which your wife never has any access or control.
You would also need a good prenup: fair to both sides, she gets a year or two of alimony if you split, and both you and her consult with separate attorneys (req'd in CA). If the prenup agreement does not look fair, the judge will throw it out.
From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it. For example, if you have a checking account from before the marriage with your name alone on it, say from an inheritance, you don't put any money earned during the marriage into it, it stays separate.Bible_Belt said:Prenups protect pre-marital assets from becoming joint marital property upon marriage. The only way to shelter income is to set a business aside in the prenup, keep all your income within the business, and never let her touch it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I agree, that is correct, but my point is that the extent to which the pre-marital assets are not comingled equals the level of protection provided on the prenup. One must be very careful.Zarky said:From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it.