Scorpio13c
Don Juan
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Just want to know from anyone who's experienced one & thoughts in general..
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Scorpio13c said:Are Pre Numps really worth it/valid?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Unless you're an attorney I'd be careful giving legal advice. Prenups are an "alternate marriage contract" that may avoid a presumed 50/50 split of community property at dissolution (I speak for CA here).Bible_Belt said:They only make sense if you carry assets into the marriage. Most people getting married are broke, so a prenup is pointless.
Even if you have a prenup, assets earned by both you and your spouse while married are considered joint marital property. The only exception is a very carefully managed business, set aside by a prenup, to which your wife never has any access or control.
You would also need a good prenup: fair to both sides, she gets a year or two of alimony if you split, and both you and her consult with separate attorneys (req'd in CA). If the prenup agreement does not look fair, the judge will throw it out.
From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it. For example, if you have a checking account from before the marriage with your name alone on it, say from an inheritance, you don't put any money earned during the marriage into it, it stays separate.Bible_Belt said:Prenups protect pre-marital assets from becoming joint marital property upon marriage. The only way to shelter income is to set a business aside in the prenup, keep all your income within the business, and never let her touch it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I agree, that is correct, but my point is that the extent to which the pre-marital assets are not comingled equals the level of protection provided on the prenup. One must be very careful.Zarky said:From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it.