Scorpio13c
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Just want to know from anyone who's experienced one & thoughts in general..
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scorpio13c said:Are Pre Numps really worth it/valid?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Unless you're an attorney I'd be careful giving legal advice. Prenups are an "alternate marriage contract" that may avoid a presumed 50/50 split of community property at dissolution (I speak for CA here).Bible_Belt said:They only make sense if you carry assets into the marriage. Most people getting married are broke, so a prenup is pointless.
Even if you have a prenup, assets earned by both you and your spouse while married are considered joint marital property. The only exception is a very carefully managed business, set aside by a prenup, to which your wife never has any access or control.
You would also need a good prenup: fair to both sides, she gets a year or two of alimony if you split, and both you and her consult with separate attorneys (req'd in CA). If the prenup agreement does not look fair, the judge will throw it out.
From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it. For example, if you have a checking account from before the marriage with your name alone on it, say from an inheritance, you don't put any money earned during the marriage into it, it stays separate.Bible_Belt said:Prenups protect pre-marital assets from becoming joint marital property upon marriage. The only way to shelter income is to set a business aside in the prenup, keep all your income within the business, and never let her touch it.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I agree, that is correct, but my point is that the extent to which the pre-marital assets are not comingled equals the level of protection provided on the prenup. One must be very careful.Zarky said:From what I recall from community property law class, you can keep separate property from becoming community property simply by not commingling it.