Your pics look creepy man. And a bit fem on the second pic.
I suggest you get pictures with other people and out and about doing fun things. If I were a chick I wouldn't swipe right either, and it's not because of your aesthetics it's more just the aura you are giving off.
What I am about to share is not a judgement of you
@sangheilios, as a person or of your looks.
I am going to share my experience, as a woman, of the two photos presented. That is all. YOU are not those pictures, or my perception of those pictures. Remember that. Know that I intend well, with what I offer here.
Your first photo shows off a great body. Your head angled as it is, comes off (not as artistic, if that is what you were going for?) but creepy, at east to me as a woman, anyway.
Your second photo gives off a lot of uneasy vibes, to me. It gives mixed messages. One, there is an aspect of ruggedness yet also a huge aura of not a masculine nature but a more feminine one. I am not judging it. I am just sharing how I perceive it.
We all express ourselves along on many spectrums. There are very masculine females, to very feminine females. There are very masculine males, to very feminine men. Our essences are not set in stone or inflexible. There is an area along the spectrum we live from. We all can embody a more masculine essence or a more feminine essence, regardless of our physical parts or the sex we are predominantly attracted to, and it can fluctuate according to who we are with, our desires, the circumstances, etc. Then there is where on the spectrum we predominantly reside within ourselves and in our life. What is most comfortable for each of us.
One of the biggest turn offs for many men is that many women these days reside more predominantly in their masculine nature. Many men prefer a woman with a very feminine essence. At the same time some men
genuinely prefer to be with women that are more dominant, so they then look for a woman at the other end of the spectrum.
Your second photo,
to me, shows a man who is more feminine in his essence. Not judging, just reporting how I perceive it. That would be attractive to a woman (or a gay man) who wants to be more dominant and in their masculine essence, in the relationship. This may be why you get hit on by gay males, more often than most straight men.
Again, not judging, but the majority of women are most attracted to men who are predominantly masculine in their essence. That is not the vibe, of the second photo, in my experience.
If you are a man who lives his life more aligned with a feminine nature than be aware of that and realize that your match than is a in a smaller subset of women who would feel both attracted and satisfied with such relationship dynamics. Most women (again-feminine essence) would prefer a more dominant male, as to a submissive one. The second photo gives off more of the opposite vibe, to me, while also inserting a more rugged style, that makes one wonder and leaves a bit of confusion.
Lastly, I was left wondering if in the second photo you are wearing make-up or if that is truly your natural coloring? I get there are a lot of subcultures where men embrace wearing make-up. I am just not clear what I am seeing and where you fit in. Again, no judgement intended, just me sharing my experience of the photo. I even enlarged it more, to look more closely.
I am not sure what is true for you
@sangheilios. I only see the photos presented. Again, they are not you. They are just two photos.
As a woman, I personally am attracted to men who fully radiate their masculine nature. That is SUPER HOT, to me! That is certainly not every woman. I am not saying I want a man who does not ALSO have the flexibility to be tender and caring, etc. I do. I am not saying they are mutually exclusive, at all. As a woman I can also step into a very asservative and dominant essence, when called to do so and is appropriate. I do that here sometimes. Doing it for a short bit here and there is not an issue. It can be done for purpose and for play. Those work. That is different than residing in a masculine nature (as a woman) predominantly. Anything longer than temporarily is not a good fit for me as a woman. It is not a happy and fulfilled place,, for me.
I personally most desire and fit the dance of masculinity and femininity, from the place of primarily being an incredibly feminine woman, partnering with a very masculine man. For me, at it's best, it is an amazing dance of polarity, of the feminine and masculine essences, that TRULY enlivens both partners.
It is important to be clear on what is a truly fulfilling match vs. frustrating match, for you.
A masculine man partnered with a masculine woman is not enlivening. Only one can lead the dance, moment to moment.
A feminine woman partnered with a feminine man is not enlivening. Someone has to be the leader. Here both prefer to be led.
A more feminine man partnered with a more masculine woman can be work well and be enlivening to both of them. In that case, he truly wants to surrender and be led, in their dance, while she also most desires to lead.
A truly masculine man partnered with a truly feminine women can be incredibly enlivening dance to both. He leads the dance and she revels and delights, in his leadership.
My recommendation to you
@sangheilios is to fully own whatever is true for you!! Own it fully! If you are a masculine man than own it and put up pictures that radiate that. If you are truly a more feminine natured man (again not judging) than own that. Put up pictures and a bio that expresses that and directly or indirectly make clear your desire for a more predominantly masculine essence female. Own what you are looking for and will most please you!!
One of the greatest frustrations in dating and relationships is when there is a mismatch in male and female essences. When a man wants a woman to be in her feminine essence but she's stuck in her masculine, because of her career demands, her fears, and/or that is just who she is, etc. Whatever it is, the man can feel incredibly frustrated, as she may dress and look feminine, but she is meeting him with a predominantly masculine essence. It is a mismatch for him. She does not defer to his leadership. He's not clear that he is not looking or wanting to be led. He likely finds it insulting even. So frustration ensues, for both.
Or a feminine woman meets a man who is more thoughtful, considerate, kindhearted and caring and she partners with him. What she may fail to adequately consider is if he also is his masculine nature as much as she NEEDS, in order to feel satisfied and MATCH the polarity of who she is. If she is wanting a man to be more of the decision maker and leader and action oriented and what she finds is that instead he constantly defers to her, it can be a huge mismatch and leaves both parties very frustrated.
There is so much more that could be said here. Food for thought.
Clarity on where we each lie on the spectrum and what best match up with is really important for a truly enlivening and satisfying dance, so to speak.
TL;DR Know that your pictures convey much more than simple looks. You are an attractive man. Your photos send mixed messages. Your dominant essence is unclear in your photos. Most women will simply pass. They desire a man who is clear, either way. New photos that convey you and your dominant essence I suspect will bring you results that more clearly match what you most desire.
