"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Are Initiative taking women a red flag?

tesla8520

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This woman claims that initiative-taking/aggressive women do chase men and initiate interactions because they feel the need to pursue a man, possibly because their father was absent. As a result, they may have developed a relationship pattern in which the man is always absent, and they have to pursue him in order to get his attention.

She talks about how these women often have a father wound and may be more likely to monkey-branch from one relationship to another.
In fact, she argues that even when these women are in a relationship or married, they may still flirt frequently with other men or even initiate interactions with them.

Their usual target is a stoic man who does not show many emotions toward them. As a result, they feel compelled to do the work of decoding his emotions and trying to fill that emotional gap.

To sum up, women who take the initiative, flirt too much, or even openly declare their feelings are a major red flag.

What's your take on this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BaronOfHair

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Some types of initiative are definitely cause for caution, yeah. One ex.

There's a big difference between a gal who begins conversations with men she fancies(Perfectly reasonably)

Vs

Those who are, quite literally, down on all fours on social media http://instagr.am/p/ChNfcRsvyow/ , even though they're NOT professional models/are doing so in large part to attract male attention, yet refuse to admit they're motives outright
 

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Actually this woman is pretty good!
She says things we see works irl.

women like men who are projects.
Admit your flaws and say you are working on it will make you more attractive and a better relationship materials then a mature man who owns his life and have his sh1t in order.

She says women like a man who shows up and it's struggling but promise that he is gonna change.
She think because women want a man to be committed, but they like a man that says that "he is gonna change".
Because if the man is gonna say that, the woman will feel like, "oh, he's gonna change for me".


He struggle with drinking but "he's working on it"
He struggle with keeping a job but hey "he's working on it".
 

Bokanovsky

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This woman claims that initiative-taking/aggressive women do chase men and initiate interactions because they feel the need to pursue a man, possibly because their father was absent. As a result, they may have developed a relationship pattern in which the man is always absent, and they have to pursue him in order to get his attention.

She talks about how these women often have a father wound and may be more likely to monkey-branch from one relationship to another.
In fact, she argues that even when these women are in a relationship or married, they may still flirt frequently with other men or even initiate interactions with them.

Their usual target is a stoic man who does not show many emotions toward them. As a result, they feel compelled to do the work of decoding his emotions and trying to fill that emotional gap.

To sum up, women who take the initiative, flirt too much, or even openly declare their feelings are a major red flag.

What's your take on this?
What makes her an authority of anything? "Father Wound"? This is bro psychology at best.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BillyPilgrim

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The girl in the video is a good example of the "weird stare". If a chick has no sweetness nor sexiness in her gaze, it's not a good sign.

OP is too used to good-for-nothing Italian chicks to see it as odd lol.
 
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