"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Are Initiative taking women a red flag?

tesla8520

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This woman claims that initiative-taking/aggressive women do chase men and initiate interactions because they feel the need to pursue a man, possibly because their father was absent. As a result, they may have developed a relationship pattern in which the man is always absent, and they have to pursue him in order to get his attention.

She talks about how these women often have a father wound and may be more likely to monkey-branch from one relationship to another.
In fact, she argues that even when these women are in a relationship or married, they may still flirt frequently with other men or even initiate interactions with them.

Their usual target is a stoic man who does not show many emotions toward them. As a result, they feel compelled to do the work of decoding his emotions and trying to fill that emotional gap.

To sum up, women who take the initiative, flirt too much, or even openly declare their feelings are a major red flag.

What's your take on this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BaronOfHair

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Some types of initiative are definitely cause for caution, yeah. One ex.

There's a big difference between a gal who begins conversations with men she fancies(Perfectly reasonably)

Vs

Those who are, quite literally, down on all fours on social media http://instagr.am/p/ChNfcRsvyow/ , even though they're NOT professional models/are doing so in large part to attract male attention, yet refuse to admit they're motives outright
 

tesla8520

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Actually this woman is pretty good!
She says things we see works irl.

women like men who are projects.
Admit your flaws and say you are working on it will make you more attractive and a better relationship materials then a mature man who owns his life and have his sh1t in order.

She says women like a man who shows up and it's struggling but promise that he is gonna change.
She think because women want a man to be committed, but they like a man that says that "he is gonna change".
Because if the man is gonna say that, the woman will feel like, "oh, he's gonna change for me".


He struggle with drinking but "he's working on it"
He struggle with keeping a job but hey "he's working on it".
 

Bokanovsky

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This woman claims that initiative-taking/aggressive women do chase men and initiate interactions because they feel the need to pursue a man, possibly because their father was absent. As a result, they may have developed a relationship pattern in which the man is always absent, and they have to pursue him in order to get his attention.

She talks about how these women often have a father wound and may be more likely to monkey-branch from one relationship to another.
In fact, she argues that even when these women are in a relationship or married, they may still flirt frequently with other men or even initiate interactions with them.

Their usual target is a stoic man who does not show many emotions toward them. As a result, they feel compelled to do the work of decoding his emotions and trying to fill that emotional gap.

To sum up, women who take the initiative, flirt too much, or even openly declare their feelings are a major red flag.

What's your take on this?
What makes her an authority of anything? "Father Wound"? This is bro psychology at best.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BillyPilgrim

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The girl in the video is a good example of the "weird stare". If a chick has no sweetness nor sexiness in her gaze, it's not a good sign.

OP is too used to good-for-nothing Italian chicks to see it as odd lol.
 
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