Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Are Initiative taking women a red flag?

tesla8520

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This woman claims that initiative-taking/aggressive women do chase men and initiate interactions because they feel the need to pursue a man, possibly because their father was absent. As a result, they may have developed a relationship pattern in which the man is always absent, and they have to pursue him in order to get his attention.

She talks about how these women often have a father wound and may be more likely to monkey-branch from one relationship to another.
In fact, she argues that even when these women are in a relationship or married, they may still flirt frequently with other men or even initiate interactions with them.

Their usual target is a stoic man who does not show many emotions toward them. As a result, they feel compelled to do the work of decoding his emotions and trying to fill that emotional gap.

To sum up, women who take the initiative, flirt too much, or even openly declare their feelings are a major red flag.

What's your take on this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BaronOfHair

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Some types of initiative are definitely cause for caution, yeah. One ex.

There's a big difference between a gal who begins conversations with men she fancies(Perfectly reasonably)

Vs

Those who are, quite literally, down on all fours on social media http://instagr.am/p/ChNfcRsvyow/ , even though they're NOT professional models/are doing so in large part to attract male attention, yet refuse to admit they're motives outright
 

tesla8520

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Actually this woman is pretty good!
She says things we see works irl.

women like men who are projects.
Admit your flaws and say you are working on it will make you more attractive and a better relationship materials then a mature man who owns his life and have his sh1t in order.

She says women like a man who shows up and it's struggling but promise that he is gonna change.
She think because women want a man to be committed, but they like a man that says that "he is gonna change".
Because if the man is gonna say that, the woman will feel like, "oh, he's gonna change for me".


He struggle with drinking but "he's working on it"
He struggle with keeping a job but hey "he's working on it".
 

Bokanovsky

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This woman claims that initiative-taking/aggressive women do chase men and initiate interactions because they feel the need to pursue a man, possibly because their father was absent. As a result, they may have developed a relationship pattern in which the man is always absent, and they have to pursue him in order to get his attention.

She talks about how these women often have a father wound and may be more likely to monkey-branch from one relationship to another.
In fact, she argues that even when these women are in a relationship or married, they may still flirt frequently with other men or even initiate interactions with them.

Their usual target is a stoic man who does not show many emotions toward them. As a result, they feel compelled to do the work of decoding his emotions and trying to fill that emotional gap.

To sum up, women who take the initiative, flirt too much, or even openly declare their feelings are a major red flag.

What's your take on this?
What makes her an authority of anything? "Father Wound"? This is bro psychology at best.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BillyPilgrim

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The girl in the video is a good example of the "weird stare". If a chick has no sweetness nor sexiness in her gaze, it's not a good sign.

OP is too used to good-for-nothing Italian chicks to see it as odd lol.
 
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