"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Are Initiative taking women a red flag?

tesla8520

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This woman claims that initiative-taking/aggressive women do chase men and initiate interactions because they feel the need to pursue a man, possibly because their father was absent. As a result, they may have developed a relationship pattern in which the man is always absent, and they have to pursue him in order to get his attention.

She talks about how these women often have a father wound and may be more likely to monkey-branch from one relationship to another.
In fact, she argues that even when these women are in a relationship or married, they may still flirt frequently with other men or even initiate interactions with them.

Their usual target is a stoic man who does not show many emotions toward them. As a result, they feel compelled to do the work of decoding his emotions and trying to fill that emotional gap.

To sum up, women who take the initiative, flirt too much, or even openly declare their feelings are a major red flag.

What's your take on this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BaronOfHair

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Some types of initiative are definitely cause for caution, yeah. One ex.

There's a big difference between a gal who begins conversations with men she fancies(Perfectly reasonably)

Vs

Those who are, quite literally, down on all fours on social media http://instagr.am/p/ChNfcRsvyow/ , even though they're NOT professional models/are doing so in large part to attract male attention, yet refuse to admit they're motives outright
 
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