She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
In the last century, I had attended church singles' dances without going to church, LOL. For while, there were just barely enough young gals who showed up just barely often enough to make it a good mack source (it was always the young maiden being an acquaintance-friend of an older crone (or sometimes her daughterSince I prefer a more traditional type woman (as if they exist much these days) I've thought about going to a church, but my conscience would probably bother me (as an agnostic/atheist, I'd be attending for the 'wrong' reasons).
Although I've never been a fan of oppressive environments, I'm not bothered by women that voluntarily allow themselves to be oppressed by church/bible teachings.
I mean no offense to my religious forum members here. Just speaking my thoughts.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just saw younger woman saying asexual, masculine and feminine females like the non feminine way is more common and acceptable.The powers that be have been attacking and isolating white male interests - basically the entirety of the culture developed here by European founders and immigrants - and that includes work ethics, moral values, and religion. Feminism is just one aspect of this. Females, younger females especially, seem to have bought into this anti-traditionalist indoctrination especially hard, so it's no surprise you're not seeing them in churches. Goodbye America, it was nice knowing you.
Wow, that's a five hour video.
The situation is so bleak that these IncelTubers always try to keep the session to a reasonable length, but there's always a caller with another horrific anecdote, so the sessions go on for a long time. I listen to it while I do my housework, take a dump, etc., LOL. I think FaceAndLMS has an 8-hour marathon.Wow, that's a five hour video.
The United States may be more religious than Australia. Among Millennials in the USA (early 1980s to mid 1990s births), religious participation is not all that high. In most churches, the 20s/30s single demographic is absent. In most churches, you'll see older couples (likely empty nesters), older widows, and 30-40s people with children under 18.Young women who go to church regularly are Virtually non existent. (And no mega church's like hillsong are not real church's).
It doesn't help that Australia isn't very religious, we don't even have a bible belt like you Americans do. Young Christian Men here have almost no options when it comes to dating.