"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Approach Anxiety Doing Direct
- Thread starter mangotot
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
escaleraroyal
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1. are the people around listening to your conversation? if so, is it everyone? or just one person? do they notice what's happening? what do they see? what do they hear?
for example- i find that sometimes people will notice. and some people won't notice. the people that notice will see me go up to a girl and talk to her. if they're listening, they'll also hear what i'm saying.
2. what are these people thinking? (your guess)
example- i think that some people would be amused by whats happening and take an active interest. this is what i do when i see a guy trying to pick up a girl. i want to critique the guy and see if i can learn anything. or learn from his mistakes.
i also think that some people wouldn't really be that interested.
i think that some people might think i'm a creep.
i think that some people might be amused as if watching a television comedy. they might be chuckling inside.
i think that some people might cheer me on.
3. what is your reaction to them thinking this? (not just anxiety, but also the thoughts that are going on)
example- i don't want to be critiqued by someone else when i'm doing this.
or
i wish people would **** off and mind their own business.
etc
really psychoanalyze whats going on here. and maybe you'll have a clue for how to overcome this anxiety.
many people also have difficulty approaching when there are other people around. you're not alone! i do as well.
Krueg
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Girls who GIVE OUT their number WITHOUT you asking..mean nothing.skinnyguy said:
Women YOU ASK for the number and give you their number are INTERESTED.
If their not interested or the number is "Fake" big fvcking deal, Move On!
Learn things the hard way or PROTECT YOUR HEART!
Side Note: What Rugby11 said earlier.. No Risk, No Reward!