Approach Anxiety Doing Direct

[mangotot]

Going direct on girl when other people are around listening to what I have to say, I become really anxious to the point of not approaching. Any advice on overcoming this? Please don't say do 'indirect'.

 

[mangotot]

Bump.

 

[VladPatton]

Don't do it if it's not for you. Look for alternate ways to meet chicks.

 

[Krueg]

Three Litte Words...

Forget crazy pickup lines
forget fancy approaches
forget massive confidence
forget cool clothes
forget her confusing glances
forget two hour convos.

Turn your life around by asking her.......

WHAT'S YOUR NUMBER?
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forget the layguide
forget Ross Jeffries
forget negging
forget hair gel
forget fast cars

Turn your life around by asking her....

WHAT'S YOUR NUMBER?
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forget Anti-Dump
forget Big Don
forget Krynnster
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forget Zap
forget Cecil

Turn you life around by asking her....

WHAT'S YOUR NUMBER?
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Total happiness is waiting for you but you must say the three little words to her...First, introduce yourself, then a little talking, then....

What's your number? And go home. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED.

AD

 

[skinnyguy]

Three Litte Words...

Getting a number means nothing.

 

[rugby11]

You know what helps me? Going into new places and getting rejected as much as possible. At least 15 times a day. The problem is now i don't get rejected because i don't care as much.

 

[escaleraroyal]

Even easier go for apocalypse opener.

 

[nyc123]

consider these questions

1. are the people around listening to your conversation? if so, is it everyone? or just one person? do they notice what's happening? what do they see? what do they hear?

for example- i find that sometimes people will notice. and some people won't notice. the people that notice will see me go up to a girl and talk to her. if they're listening, they'll also hear what i'm saying.

2. what are these people thinking? (your guess)
example- i think that some people would be amused by whats happening and take an active interest. this is what i do when i see a guy trying to pick up a girl. i want to critique the guy and see if i can learn anything. or learn from his mistakes.

i also think that some people wouldn't really be that interested.

i think that some people might think i'm a creep.

i think that some people might be amused as if watching a television comedy. they might be chuckling inside.

i think that some people might cheer me on.

3. what is your reaction to them thinking this? (not just anxiety, but also the thoughts that are going on)

example- i don't want to be critiqued by someone else when i'm doing this.
or
i wish people would **** off and mind their own business.
etc

really psychoanalyze whats going on here. and maybe you'll have a clue for how to overcome this anxiety.

many people also have difficulty approaching when there are other people around. you're not alone! i do as well.

 

[Krueg]

Getting a number means nothing.

Girls who GIVE OUT their number WITHOUT you asking..mean nothing.

Women YOU ASK for the number and give you their number are INTERESTED.

If their not interested or the number is "Fake" big fvcking deal, Move On!

Learn things the hard way or PROTECT YOUR HEART!

Side Note: What Rugby11 said earlier.. No Risk, No Reward!