"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Approach Anxiety Doing Direct
- Thread starter mangotot
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
escaleraroyal
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1. are the people around listening to your conversation? if so, is it everyone? or just one person? do they notice what's happening? what do they see? what do they hear?
for example- i find that sometimes people will notice. and some people won't notice. the people that notice will see me go up to a girl and talk to her. if they're listening, they'll also hear what i'm saying.
2. what are these people thinking? (your guess)
example- i think that some people would be amused by whats happening and take an active interest. this is what i do when i see a guy trying to pick up a girl. i want to critique the guy and see if i can learn anything. or learn from his mistakes.
i also think that some people wouldn't really be that interested.
i think that some people might think i'm a creep.
i think that some people might be amused as if watching a television comedy. they might be chuckling inside.
i think that some people might cheer me on.
3. what is your reaction to them thinking this? (not just anxiety, but also the thoughts that are going on)
example- i don't want to be critiqued by someone else when i'm doing this.
or
i wish people would **** off and mind their own business.
etc
really psychoanalyze whats going on here. and maybe you'll have a clue for how to overcome this anxiety.
many people also have difficulty approaching when there are other people around. you're not alone! i do as well.
Krueg
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Girls who GIVE OUT their number WITHOUT you asking..mean nothing.skinnyguy said:
Women YOU ASK for the number and give you their number are INTERESTED.
If their not interested or the number is "Fake" big fvcking deal, Move On!
Learn things the hard way or PROTECT YOUR HEART!
Side Note: What Rugby11 said earlier.. No Risk, No Reward!