"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Approach Anxiety Doing Direct
- Thread starter mangotot
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
escaleraroyal
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1. are the people around listening to your conversation? if so, is it everyone? or just one person? do they notice what's happening? what do they see? what do they hear?
for example- i find that sometimes people will notice. and some people won't notice. the people that notice will see me go up to a girl and talk to her. if they're listening, they'll also hear what i'm saying.
2. what are these people thinking? (your guess)
example- i think that some people would be amused by whats happening and take an active interest. this is what i do when i see a guy trying to pick up a girl. i want to critique the guy and see if i can learn anything. or learn from his mistakes.
i also think that some people wouldn't really be that interested.
i think that some people might think i'm a creep.
i think that some people might be amused as if watching a television comedy. they might be chuckling inside.
i think that some people might cheer me on.
3. what is your reaction to them thinking this? (not just anxiety, but also the thoughts that are going on)
example- i don't want to be critiqued by someone else when i'm doing this.
or
i wish people would **** off and mind their own business.
etc
really psychoanalyze whats going on here. and maybe you'll have a clue for how to overcome this anxiety.
many people also have difficulty approaching when there are other people around. you're not alone! i do as well.
Krueg
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Girls who GIVE OUT their number WITHOUT you asking..mean nothing.skinnyguy said:
Women YOU ASK for the number and give you their number are INTERESTED.
If their not interested or the number is "Fake" big fvcking deal, Move On!
Learn things the hard way or PROTECT YOUR HEART!
Side Note: What Rugby11 said earlier.. No Risk, No Reward!