DanZy
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Bench should just be a higher weight, never greater than squats
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Apocolipto's path to becoming a ladies man =P
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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dANZY, U must come back to me about meeting up, I really want to sarge in JHB.
DanZy
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Sorry mate, I'm nowhere near lanseria or Kempton. Joburg is huge
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Alright cool, guys today I begin with exams, wish me luck lol
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Hi guys, today was a great gym session, I did squats(perfect form) 120KG
leg presses:220KG
barbell rows:70KG
lat pulldown machine:67.5KG
bench press:90KGx5 reps(YAY!)
BTW guys, what do you do when someone threatens you on fb? I said to a girl we should meet up, and the guy started commenting aggresively and saying he'll send ppl to get me..lol.
Apoco
leg presses:220KG
barbell rows:70KG
lat pulldown machine:67.5KG
bench press:90KGx5 reps(YAY!)
BTW guys, what do you do when someone threatens you on fb? I said to a girl we should meet up, and the guy started commenting aggresively and saying he'll send ppl to get me..lol.
Apoco
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Nice bench. More detail on the interaction?
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Do you understand afrikaans?Then I'll link u to the page.Also, I want my FB page reviewed? Anyone up for it?
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Ask DanZy or Nino. I can do the last part if its in english, which it should be.apocolipto said:
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Norwegian check PM for my profile.
Anyway I'm not getting anywhere with any chicks as I'm not seeing them.Damn exams!
Just gonna gym and learn, and this vacation I'm of to Johannesburg! Party Party!
Anyway I'm not getting anywhere with any chicks as I'm not seeing them.Damn exams!
Just gonna gym and learn, and this vacation I'm of to Johannesburg! Party Party!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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FBC? And thanks for tip,,but I commented that on one of her posts, not wall post.
Lesson learned!
Lesson learned!
DanZy
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My Afrikaans is limited to swearing so I can't really help you. I'm a proper southie, though I pull a lot of Afrikaans girls
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Hahahaha, makes two of us! Less afrikaans chicks on my part though.DanZy said:
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Guys, I have a junior totally inlove with me, who won't stop texting me.Same with another HB 6/7. Damn =/
Luckily I arranged a "walk around the block" date with a HB8 tomorrow, and will defnitley put all my skills into use.Gonna try for the kiss close.
And guys,,how the hell do I stop smoking?I have so much trouble and stress that I've been smoking for 3 years, And once I stop, and something happens, I NEED to smoke..=( Sucks balls!
Apoco
Luckily I arranged a "walk around the block" date with a HB8 tomorrow, and will defnitley put all my skills into use.Gonna try for the kiss close.
And guys,,how the hell do I stop smoking?I have so much trouble and stress that I've been smoking for 3 years, And once I stop, and something happens, I NEED to smoke..=( Sucks balls!
Apoco
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Just make it easy for yourself to stop. Also, just make a decision about it. Once you've decided, that's how it is.
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I know, it's just cravings are harsh. I'm busy with THC withdrawal also, as I've been smoking weed for 3 years daily, and decided to stop.I got so angry yesterday(withdrawal symptom I get) that I hit a hole in my cupboard. I get very frustrated and angry all the time,it's starting to scare me.
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Hey guys, well nothing new social wise.I can't go out, as it's exams.
But today I took a walk with a HB8(met her today),and couldn't really kino much,as we were walking.I did "shake" her hand(more like held it with eye contact)when I met up,and hugged her as I greeted her when I went.Didn't want to k-close as I think it would have been weird with the little kino that was involved.She gave clear IOI's.Lots of eye contact,smiling and laughing and playing with hair.
Anyway, we have a day 2 tomorrow,again a walk.But this time I'm gonna let us sit down somewhere,convo and kino and k-close.
I actualy like this chick,and would consider a LTR with her.(Depending on where our relationship goes)
Enjoy the week DJ's.
Apoco
But today I took a walk with a HB8(met her today),and couldn't really kino much,as we were walking.I did "shake" her hand(more like held it with eye contact)when I met up,and hugged her as I greeted her when I went.Didn't want to k-close as I think it would have been weird with the little kino that was involved.She gave clear IOI's.Lots of eye contact,smiling and laughing and playing with hair.
Anyway, we have a day 2 tomorrow,again a walk.But this time I'm gonna let us sit down somewhere,convo and kino and k-close.
I actualy like this chick,and would consider a LTR with her.(Depending on where our relationship goes)
Enjoy the week DJ's.
Apoco
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Well guys, no gaming for me.I'm sick with a cold and I'd think that would be a great turn off to a girl.**** sucks.
Hopefully I recover soon!
Hopefully I recover soon!
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Same. However, nothing stops me yo!apocolipto said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.