"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dANZY, U must come back to me about meeting up, I really want to sarge in JHB.
 
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Hi guys, today was a great gym session, I did squats(perfect form) 120KG
leg presses:220KG
barbell rows:70KG
lat pulldown machine:67.5KG
bench press:90KGx5 reps(YAY!)

BTW guys, what do you do when someone threatens you on fb? I said to a girl we should meet up, and the guy started commenting aggresively and saying he'll send ppl to get me..lol.

Apoco
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you understand afrikaans?Then I'll link u to the page.Also, I want my FB page reviewed? Anyone up for it?
 
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apocolipto said:
Do you understand afrikaans?Then I'll link u to the page.Also, I want my FB page reviewed? Anyone up for it?
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Ask DanZy or Nino. I can do the last part if its in english, which it should be.
 
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Norwegian check PM for my profile.

Anyway I'm not getting anywhere with any chicks as I'm not seeing them.Damn exams!
Just gonna gym and learn, and this vacation I'm of to Johannesburg! Party Party!
 
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apocolipto said:
BTW guys, what do you do when someone threatens you on fb? I said to a girl we should meet up, and the guy started commenting aggresively and saying he'll send ppl to get me..lol.

Apoco
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Wow... haha. Don't pay any attention to it whatsoever but as a tip I wouldn't do that in wall posts, would sooner use FBC or at least a PM.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FBC? And thanks for tip,,but I commented that on one of her posts, not wall post.

Lesson learned! :)
 
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apocolipto said:
FBC? And thanks for tip,,but I commented that on one of her posts, not wall post.

Lesson learned! :)
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Facebook chat, as in the instant messaging stuff.
 
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DanZy said:
My Afrikaans is limited to swearing so I can't really help you. I'm a proper southie, though I pull a lot of Afrikaans girls
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Hahahaha, makes two of us! Less afrikaans chicks on my part though.
 
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Guys, I have a junior totally inlove with me, who won't stop texting me.Same with another HB 6/7. Damn =/

Luckily I arranged a "walk around the block" date with a HB8 tomorrow, and will defnitley put all my skills into use.Gonna try for the kiss close.

And guys,,how the hell do I stop smoking?I have so much trouble and stress that I've been smoking for 3 years, And once I stop, and something happens, I NEED to smoke..=( Sucks balls!

Apoco
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just make it easy for yourself to stop. Also, just make a decision about it. Once you've decided, that's how it is.
 
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I know, it's just cravings are harsh. I'm busy with THC withdrawal also, as I've been smoking weed for 3 years daily, and decided to stop.I got so angry yesterday(withdrawal symptom I get) that I hit a hole in my cupboard. I get very frustrated and angry all the time,it's starting to scare me.
 
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Hey guys, well nothing new social wise.I can't go out, as it's exams.

But today I took a walk with a HB8(met her today),and couldn't really kino much,as we were walking.I did "shake" her hand(more like held it with eye contact)when I met up,and hugged her as I greeted her when I went.Didn't want to k-close as I think it would have been weird with the little kino that was involved.She gave clear IOI's.Lots of eye contact,smiling and laughing and playing with hair.
Anyway, we have a day 2 tomorrow,again a walk.But this time I'm gonna let us sit down somewhere,convo and kino and k-close.
I actualy like this chick,and would consider a LTR with her.(Depending on where our relationship goes)

Enjoy the week DJ's.
Apoco
 
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Well guys, no gaming for me.I'm sick with a cold and I'd think that would be a great turn off to a girl.**** sucks.

Hopefully I recover soon!
 
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apocolipto said:
Well guys, no gaming for me.I'm sick with a cold and I'd think that would be a great turn off to a girl.**** sucks.

Hopefully I recover soon!
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Same. However, nothing stops me yo!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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