"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Anyone had any luck with winking at girls?

joshlavarn2009

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I tried this with a couple girls and got good results, like I tried it on a neighbor girl during a conversation, and it got her flustered in a good way. Also on a cute girl at Culvers, and a bank teller too. Seemed to break the ice and get their pussies wet at the same time.

Anyone tried winking during eye contact? Were your results good? Just thought it might be another weapon for the dj.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Night Owl

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I have given up winking for 20 days now. I feel fitter and can concentrate much better. Although I find it hard to resist, and not sure if I have the will power to go on any further and might have to reset..... :crackup:
 

Alle_Gory

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Depends on your personality. Some people can make even a wink creepy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DarkShade

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I wink all the time to girls who come into my work, almost always it's after I say something witty/****y and I have their full attention. Today I did it to a girl who had a boyfriend (he wasn't in earshot) and she got this huge smile on her face. So far I haven't gotten any good 'hits' from it but it's a good confidence/motivation booster.
 

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Winking works best when done naturally, not forced. Be REAL laid back when winking to women, and don't just stand there.

You have to be on the move. Wink, and turn away.
 

TheEnergizer

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lol i can only wink with my right eyeso i can only do it to girls to my right.... aww man

otherwise id be blinking at them...
 

TheEnergizer

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yeah true, so i can always just turn my head to the left if they are on my left and wink at them. no biggie ;)
 

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MillenniumMike said:
Personally I feel that smiles are more effective than winks, it is universal in its uses.
Agree, smiling is more effective for me anyways.

With winking,Ive gotten some rolleyes and girls sighing doing that.:crackup: I think it comes off as corny and arrogant. But hey if it works for you then do it. Seems to be working for the OP.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Atom Smasher

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Totally cheesy UNLESS you've already established rapport with her.

If it's somebody you've already been "working", and you both happen to accidentally look at each other at the same time, a subtle wink will excite her beyond belief.

Practice your wink first in a mirror, though. It needs to be subtle and non-chalant. That means DON"T contort your face. Some people scrunch up the whole side of their face while winking, and boy does that ever look pathetic.

Just use the muscles of the eyelid with either zero or an ever-so-slight lifting of the cheek and it will come off as cool. Finish it off with a slight and sly close-mouthed grin, and it works magic.

For someone I just met, though, I think a wink is out of place. A smile works better.
 

Poonani Maker

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I had an older woman yesterday wink at me upon first meeting me and telling me, "You're funny." She said I reminded her of Johnny Depp as Captain Jack, I guess, because I was directionless, and couldn't make up my mind thus appearing drunk.
 

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Of course, im irish ;)
 
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