"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Anyone had any luck with winking at girls?

joshlavarn2009

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I tried this with a couple girls and got good results, like I tried it on a neighbor girl during a conversation, and it got her flustered in a good way. Also on a cute girl at Culvers, and a bank teller too. Seemed to break the ice and get their pussies wet at the same time.

Anyone tried winking during eye contact? Were your results good? Just thought it might be another weapon for the dj.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Night Owl

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I have given up winking for 20 days now. I feel fitter and can concentrate much better. Although I find it hard to resist, and not sure if I have the will power to go on any further and might have to reset..... :crackup:
 

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Depends on your personality. Some people can make even a wink creepy.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DarkShade

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I wink all the time to girls who come into my work, almost always it's after I say something witty/****y and I have their full attention. Today I did it to a girl who had a boyfriend (he wasn't in earshot) and she got this huge smile on her face. So far I haven't gotten any good 'hits' from it but it's a good confidence/motivation booster.
 

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Winking works best when done naturally, not forced. Be REAL laid back when winking to women, and don't just stand there.

You have to be on the move. Wink, and turn away.
 

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lol i can only wink with my right eyeso i can only do it to girls to my right.... aww man

otherwise id be blinking at them...
 

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yeah true, so i can always just turn my head to the left if they are on my left and wink at them. no biggie ;)
 

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MillenniumMike said:
Personally I feel that smiles are more effective than winks, it is universal in its uses.
Agree, smiling is more effective for me anyways.

With winking,Ive gotten some rolleyes and girls sighing doing that.:crackup: I think it comes off as corny and arrogant. But hey if it works for you then do it. Seems to be working for the OP.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Atom Smasher

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Totally cheesy UNLESS you've already established rapport with her.

If it's somebody you've already been "working", and you both happen to accidentally look at each other at the same time, a subtle wink will excite her beyond belief.

Practice your wink first in a mirror, though. It needs to be subtle and non-chalant. That means DON"T contort your face. Some people scrunch up the whole side of their face while winking, and boy does that ever look pathetic.

Just use the muscles of the eyelid with either zero or an ever-so-slight lifting of the cheek and it will come off as cool. Finish it off with a slight and sly close-mouthed grin, and it works magic.

For someone I just met, though, I think a wink is out of place. A smile works better.
 

Poonani Maker

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I had an older woman yesterday wink at me upon first meeting me and telling me, "You're funny." She said I reminded her of Johnny Depp as Captain Jack, I guess, because I was directionless, and couldn't make up my mind thus appearing drunk.
 

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Of course, im irish ;)
 
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