"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Anyone had any luck with winking at girls?

joshlavarn2009

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I tried this with a couple girls and got good results, like I tried it on a neighbor girl during a conversation, and it got her flustered in a good way. Also on a cute girl at Culvers, and a bank teller too. Seemed to break the ice and get their pussies wet at the same time.

Anyone tried winking during eye contact? Were your results good? Just thought it might be another weapon for the dj.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Night Owl

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I have given up winking for 20 days now. I feel fitter and can concentrate much better. Although I find it hard to resist, and not sure if I have the will power to go on any further and might have to reset..... :crackup:
 

Alle_Gory

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Depends on your personality. Some people can make even a wink creepy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DarkShade

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I wink all the time to girls who come into my work, almost always it's after I say something witty/****y and I have their full attention. Today I did it to a girl who had a boyfriend (he wasn't in earshot) and she got this huge smile on her face. So far I haven't gotten any good 'hits' from it but it's a good confidence/motivation booster.
 

Allurre

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Winking works best when done naturally, not forced. Be REAL laid back when winking to women, and don't just stand there.

You have to be on the move. Wink, and turn away.
 

TheEnergizer

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lol i can only wink with my right eyeso i can only do it to girls to my right.... aww man

otherwise id be blinking at them...
 

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yeah true, so i can always just turn my head to the left if they are on my left and wink at them. no biggie ;)
 

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MillenniumMike said:
Personally I feel that smiles are more effective than winks, it is universal in its uses.
Agree, smiling is more effective for me anyways.

With winking,Ive gotten some rolleyes and girls sighing doing that.:crackup: I think it comes off as corny and arrogant. But hey if it works for you then do it. Seems to be working for the OP.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Atom Smasher

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Totally cheesy UNLESS you've already established rapport with her.

If it's somebody you've already been "working", and you both happen to accidentally look at each other at the same time, a subtle wink will excite her beyond belief.

Practice your wink first in a mirror, though. It needs to be subtle and non-chalant. That means DON"T contort your face. Some people scrunch up the whole side of their face while winking, and boy does that ever look pathetic.

Just use the muscles of the eyelid with either zero or an ever-so-slight lifting of the cheek and it will come off as cool. Finish it off with a slight and sly close-mouthed grin, and it works magic.

For someone I just met, though, I think a wink is out of place. A smile works better.
 

Poonani Maker

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I had an older woman yesterday wink at me upon first meeting me and telling me, "You're funny." She said I reminded her of Johnny Depp as Captain Jack, I guess, because I was directionless, and couldn't make up my mind thus appearing drunk.
 

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Of course, im irish ;)
 
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