Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
:crackup: She must have thought you were on drugs!Taste said:I did this once. Way back in 2004 i was sending an email to David Deangelo. I was frustrated because of this really hot girl who I wanted but she "Lets just be friended" me. And i wrote the whole thing about her "this girl is just amazing etc" And our situation and i was really drunk. And well...
I sent the email to the girl by accident. She read it lol. That was an hard one to explain.
Taste said:I did this once. Way back in 2004 i was sending an email to David Deangelo. I was frustrated because of this really hot girl who I wanted but she "Lets just be friended" me. And i wrote the whole thing about her "this girl is just amazing etc" And our situation and i was really drunk. And well...
I sent the email to the girl by accident. She read it lol. That was an hard one to explain.
My point exactly Five To One. Women do not want to hear some crazy drunk talking to them over the phone acting like an idiot. Total AFC. That is so insecure behavior.Five To One said:If I know im going to get smashed I usually hide my phone away so I cant find it later and call people.
Drunk dialing girls you are gaming or you like is very stupid. There is little chance you will say anything intelligent to her as she will usually be sober. I laugh at the guys who think the girl will be impressed that he is drunk.
Thats atleast how I see it because whenever I get a drunk dial from a girl, she usually says something very embarrassing and stupid. One time I was with a bunch of my guy friends and I put the girl on speaker so everyone could laugh at her. She was saying the dumbest things to me and was completely embarrassed the next morning.
Im sure many girls see it the same way.
And to PRMoon, have you ever tryed calling those girls while sober? or are the girls you call always drunk too.
I do the same thing you do, only sober and I get good results too. And I find sex more enjoyable when I can remember it clearly.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Sure, if you are an insecure **** and want the ugly *****s.San Jose California said:Getting drunk helps you get women. Stfu. to the guy 2 above me
I NEVER call my drunk connections while sober. That would go against the friends with benefits principles. If I called them while sober that would almost equate to dating, and I can't have that. To be honest though, I don't call anyone while I'm sober. I like to operate alone if I'm out hunting and my desperation level is at a steady 0% so If I'm not wasted, I'm likely not looking for any anyway.Five To One said:And to PRMoon, have you ever tryed calling those girls while sober? or are the girls you call always drunk too.
I do the same thing you do, only sober and I get good results too. And I find sex more enjoyable when I can remember it clearly.
oh snap! :crackup: I am curious to what she said too.Taste said:I did this once. Way back in 2004 i was sending an email to David Deangelo. I was frustrated because of this really hot girl who I wanted but she "Lets just be friended" me. And i wrote the whole thing about her "this girl is just amazing etc" And our situation and i was really drunk. And well...
I sent the email to the girl by accident. She read it lol. That was an hard one to explain.