Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Any tips for clearing the mind on a night?

ben489

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I'm still in the process of getting over a breakup due to some circumstances that resurfaced a lot of cr*p this week and I can't seem to clear my mind when I lie down or want to goto sleep. Has anybody got any tips/pointers please?

Just want to stop her creeping back into my head really :)

Cheers
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Purefilth

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Time is the only answer there really buddy. Its hard, and it sucks, but your heads gonna go into that place.

Maybe try to focus on the bad things, realise that her **** stinks too and she really wasn't worth the time of day.
 

rhythmic

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I'm there too.

1. Do new things, things that you didn't do together.
2. Spend time around people you have a good time with as much as possible.
3. As Purefilth said, focus on what you weren't happy with. There are always more women, women who won't have the faults that she did.
 

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You have to surrender to sleep. By thinking "I want to go to sleep" or "I have to go to sleep" you are forcing it or even fighting it in sense.

Close your eyes and let your mind go. Don't try to think or not think. Just let go.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dap

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Make sure you are getting up early enough in the AM. Make sure you are working out during the day. Don't watch TV or use your computer in the hour before bed. Instead, read a book/magazine or whatever in low light. Your brain naturally releases melatonin when your retina starts to noticed lower light levels. TV/laptop prevents this.
 

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Step 1. Create a top 10 list (or top 20) of fun things you wanna do that have nothing to do with sex.

Step 2. Do the things on your list!

And if you are having trouble sleeping at night, try filling up your stomach.
Sleep works in the same neural pathways that digestion does. It always helps me get to sleep.
 
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