"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Any tips for clearing the mind on a night?

ben489

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I'm still in the process of getting over a breakup due to some circumstances that resurfaced a lot of cr*p this week and I can't seem to clear my mind when I lie down or want to goto sleep. Has anybody got any tips/pointers please?

Just want to stop her creeping back into my head really :)

Cheers
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Purefilth

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Time is the only answer there really buddy. Its hard, and it sucks, but your heads gonna go into that place.

Maybe try to focus on the bad things, realise that her **** stinks too and she really wasn't worth the time of day.
 

rhythmic

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I'm there too.

1. Do new things, things that you didn't do together.
2. Spend time around people you have a good time with as much as possible.
3. As Purefilth said, focus on what you weren't happy with. There are always more women, women who won't have the faults that she did.
 

Mike32ct

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You have to surrender to sleep. By thinking "I want to go to sleep" or "I have to go to sleep" you are forcing it or even fighting it in sense.

Close your eyes and let your mind go. Don't try to think or not think. Just let go.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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dap

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Make sure you are getting up early enough in the AM. Make sure you are working out during the day. Don't watch TV or use your computer in the hour before bed. Instead, read a book/magazine or whatever in low light. Your brain naturally releases melatonin when your retina starts to noticed lower light levels. TV/laptop prevents this.
 

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Step 1. Create a top 10 list (or top 20) of fun things you wanna do that have nothing to do with sex.

Step 2. Do the things on your list!

And if you are having trouble sleeping at night, try filling up your stomach.
Sleep works in the same neural pathways that digestion does. It always helps me get to sleep.
 
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