"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Any ideas?(cant understand woman's modus operandi)

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Spaz said:
I just couldn't resist this one @sazc lmao

Let's assist you, after all I'll be irresponsible to not offer some sound advice.

In view of the hardships u r facing both on OLD with the man boobs and from seducing men in cold approaches, I'll suggest the following;

Be open to dating men from SS.

Here's a list of suitable men of impeccable quality that you should consider;

1. @bigdave17
2. @LARaiders85
3. @Focal core

Let's talk abt the highlights of each man's personality and strengths.

Bigdave earns well, has plenty of friends, single, no kids, has a beautiful car and an awesome house. And he's looking for a sexy woman of your standing.

LA is an all around sensitive man who when given the chance will worship the ground you walk on. I'm certain of it. All you need to do is don't act as a mentally crazed woman.

Focal, he drools over Celine Dion songs, talks about love like there's no tomorrow, he'll be the perfect lover boy that every women dreams of having. If it's faith then it's love in the air.

SS works in mysterious ways, you'll never know if you never try.
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OMG stop, that's so not fair to anyone
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Spaz said:
LA post a picture of yourself.

Time to man up and make us proud my man!
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The electronic cold approach, lol

Listen, I'm sure that LA lives nowhere near me and I'm pretty sure that he's too young for me but I REALLY appreciate you guys looking out for me
 
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sazc said:
The electronic cold approach, lol

Listen, I'm sure that LA lives nowhere near me and I'm pretty sure that he's too young for me but I REALLY appreciate you guys looking out for me
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See. Now you made a new orbiter. Slick.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lmao
 
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sazc said:
Because he can empathize with the dudes situation so he's nailing me with it.

My dating situation mirrors what you guys are frustrated with. Pictures that are way old, filters being used, finances are sh1t, overweight, insecurity, anxiety, over texting, dysfunction, etc, etc, etc. Grass ain't no greener over here.

To be honest, I get solid looks when I go out but no one approaches. To be fair, 30% of those looks are from men who have significant others (I know this because, as I meet their gaze and hold it, she will walk up)

The other 70% who look, I try to hold gaze to make myself approachable. 50% of those obviously struggle with the possibility of mis reading the situation and the possibility of rejection.

If I am lucky, or can pull it off, I will strike up a conversation with 10% of them and I still see 8% cognitively struggle with "what is this conversation? Is it simply friendly, or is there a possibility here?"

2% will take the leap. Very unfortunately rare.

So OLD it is!

Moral of the story, set aside your fears (as I am trying to do) and take the cold approach leap. If she's randomly engaging you in conversation, chit chat and then ask for the coffee date.

OLD is a cesspool but we're all deciding to wade thru it as an option.

Let's make cold approach warm again!
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That's similar to the stories I hear from other women on dates. We think women have it easy but it ain't so unless all she's looking for is a quick lay, sure then the options are abound but in reality most women want something substantial. To that end contrary to the popular belief here, in my own experience, women love to be slvts in bed with their man, the man they're emotionally connected to but not a general slvt.

BTW I too suffer from the 'is this simply a friendly conversation or something more...' unless her body language is obvious (her gazing at my lips or touching my arm etc). I mean even on dates it's hard to tell sometimes. So I don't know I have a good solution other than for women to make it fairly obvious that they're interested. I don't have a big problem these days with putting myself out there and getting rejected- it's part of the game but most guys will play it safe.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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