This isn't about approach anxiety. This is just about worrying and anxiety. Sometimes my heart races all day long. If it does slow down I realize it and then it starts right back up again. I have a girlfriend and if I have thoughts of other women I feel extremely guilty and then I feel stressed and worried all the time. Its like I can't push away thoughts that causes anxiety I will always think of something to worry about. Its so stressful and taxing what can I do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
frivolousz21
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i suffer from the same thing and have been for about 2 years..u may need to get some medication and relize that u have to stop worrying..worrying is causing your problems (obviously right lol) the best thing for you to do is to excercise,practice observing what you are saying to yourself mentally,change your negative self talk to positive self talk, and when you are experiencing a panic attack jus let your body do your thing,you cannot die from it no matter how uncomfortable it feels, u will not have a heart attack or stop breathing theres are psychological reasons your body is reacting the way it does physically but no one has ever died from a panic attack, eliminate caffeine from your diet, and remeber when u feel worried and your body starts having its reactions remain completly passive, and remeber that the symptoms you are feeling i.e. racing heart, is caused by your fight or flight response and is purely adrenaline and it will peak then disaapear..i hope this helps you
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Thanks for the responses. To add to the worrying I've been told stress takes 15 years off your life and it makes you fat so I worry about worrying too much. Sometimes my heart will race and I don't even know why. Sometimes it seems like sleep is my only escape. Its ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because if I find someone attractive or have a thought about someone else I can't be free until I tell her it seems like which makes her sad and insecure.
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Smoke a little bit of weed.
A little bit, not a bowl.
A little bit, not a bowl.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
sometimes weed gives me anxiety, but I also get it when I stop smoking.
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
dude i have anxiety as well. the pills i got didnt do crap though. im not trying to be negative but they made me worse, i would feel worried about the dumbest things and it sucked.
but yeah maybe if its really bad see a counsoler (sp)
good luck man.
but yeah maybe if its really bad see a counsoler (sp)
good luck man.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.