This isn't about approach anxiety. This is just about worrying and anxiety. Sometimes my heart races all day long. If it does slow down I realize it and then it starts right back up again. I have a girlfriend and if I have thoughts of other women I feel extremely guilty and then I feel stressed and worried all the time. Its like I can't push away thoughts that causes anxiety I will always think of something to worry about. Its so stressful and taxing what can I do?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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i suffer from the same thing and have been for about 2 years..u may need to get some medication and relize that u have to stop worrying..worrying is causing your problems (obviously right lol) the best thing for you to do is to excercise,practice observing what you are saying to yourself mentally,change your negative self talk to positive self talk, and when you are experiencing a panic attack jus let your body do your thing,you cannot die from it no matter how uncomfortable it feels, u will not have a heart attack or stop breathing theres are psychological reasons your body is reacting the way it does physically but no one has ever died from a panic attack, eliminate caffeine from your diet, and remeber when u feel worried and your body starts having its reactions remain completly passive, and remeber that the symptoms you are feeling i.e. racing heart, is caused by your fight or flight response and is purely adrenaline and it will peak then disaapear..i hope this helps you
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Thanks for the responses. To add to the worrying I've been told stress takes 15 years off your life and it makes you fat so I worry about worrying too much. Sometimes my heart will race and I don't even know why. Sometimes it seems like sleep is my only escape. Its ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because if I find someone attractive or have a thought about someone else I can't be free until I tell her it seems like which makes her sad and insecure.
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Smoke a little bit of weed.
A little bit, not a bowl.
A little bit, not a bowl.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
sometimes weed gives me anxiety, but I also get it when I stop smoking.
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
dude i have anxiety as well. the pills i got didnt do crap though. im not trying to be negative but they made me worse, i would feel worried about the dumbest things and it sucked.
but yeah maybe if its really bad see a counsoler (sp)
good luck man.
but yeah maybe if its really bad see a counsoler (sp)
good luck man.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.