Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Think what? To Think positively? Or did you mean that man was prepared? Not sure about this story or what it concludes.redzone2t said:It wasn't raining for a long time at a village
So, the village people decided to have a prayer for rain,
At the time of the prayer, out of everyone in the village, only one person came with an UMBRELLA.
That is CONFIDENCE.
This just made me think.
That person was an optimist, and the only true believer. It's always raining women.ZenGodMod said:Think what? To Think positively? Or did you mean that man was prepared? Not sure about this story or what it concludes.
However it reminds me of a Buddhist story. During a terrible storm the crew of vessel believing they where about to die, all got onto their knees and prayed that they would bare the storm.
While an enlightened man on the vessel, smeared animal fat all over his body and made a small raft, thus he survived the storm and the cold ocean. while the rest slowly fell to the depths of the ocean.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i am in a mess,i know all the stuf that i should say in approaching,but i could never bring myself to do it.redzone2t said:It wasn't raining for a long time at a village
So, the village people decided to have a prayer for rain,
At the time of the prayer, out of everyone in the village, only one person came with an UMBRELLA.
That is CONFIDENCE.
This just made me think.
I know exactly how you feel, im there now.i am in a mess,i know all the stuf that i should say in approaching,but i could never bring myself to do it.
i dont know,i just get terrified and i freeze up.
lmaoMistic said:The umbrella you need is a condom.