Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Think what? To Think positively? Or did you mean that man was prepared? Not sure about this story or what it concludes.redzone2t said:It wasn't raining for a long time at a village
So, the village people decided to have a prayer for rain,
At the time of the prayer, out of everyone in the village, only one person came with an UMBRELLA.
That is CONFIDENCE.
This just made me think.
That person was an optimist, and the only true believer. It's always raining women.ZenGodMod said:Think what? To Think positively? Or did you mean that man was prepared? Not sure about this story or what it concludes.
However it reminds me of a Buddhist story. During a terrible storm the crew of vessel believing they where about to die, all got onto their knees and prayed that they would bare the storm.
While an enlightened man on the vessel, smeared animal fat all over his body and made a small raft, thus he survived the storm and the cold ocean. while the rest slowly fell to the depths of the ocean.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i am in a mess,i know all the stuf that i should say in approaching,but i could never bring myself to do it.redzone2t said:It wasn't raining for a long time at a village
So, the village people decided to have a prayer for rain,
At the time of the prayer, out of everyone in the village, only one person came with an UMBRELLA.
That is CONFIDENCE.
This just made me think.
I know exactly how you feel, im there now.i am in a mess,i know all the stuf that i should say in approaching,but i could never bring myself to do it.
i dont know,i just get terrified and i freeze up.
lmaoMistic said:The umbrella you need is a condom.