You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Think what? To Think positively? Or did you mean that man was prepared? Not sure about this story or what it concludes.redzone2t said:It wasn't raining for a long time at a village
So, the village people decided to have a prayer for rain,
At the time of the prayer, out of everyone in the village, only one person came with an UMBRELLA.
That is CONFIDENCE.
This just made me think.
That person was an optimist, and the only true believer. It's always raining women.ZenGodMod said:Think what? To Think positively? Or did you mean that man was prepared? Not sure about this story or what it concludes.
However it reminds me of a Buddhist story. During a terrible storm the crew of vessel believing they where about to die, all got onto their knees and prayed that they would bare the storm.
While an enlightened man on the vessel, smeared animal fat all over his body and made a small raft, thus he survived the storm and the cold ocean. while the rest slowly fell to the depths of the ocean.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
i am in a mess,i know all the stuf that i should say in approaching,but i could never bring myself to do it.redzone2t said:It wasn't raining for a long time at a village
So, the village people decided to have a prayer for rain,
At the time of the prayer, out of everyone in the village, only one person came with an UMBRELLA.
That is CONFIDENCE.
This just made me think.
I know exactly how you feel, im there now.i am in a mess,i know all the stuf that i should say in approaching,but i could never bring myself to do it.
i dont know,i just get terrified and i freeze up.
lmaoMistic said:The umbrella you need is a condom.