I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i think you have measured wrong there mate.Originally posted by simon
After 4 sessions in the gym, according to my scales I have put on 6lbs. Not sure if that's even possible. I think I may have measured my initial weight incorrectly.
I weighed myself after a huge **** before breakfast :cheer:Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Ehhh.. you can put that kind of muscular weight on in a couple of weeks or even less (with diet and training in check), but remember some of it will be water weight thanks to increased food intake (carbs retain water, you should be drinking a couple of gallons of water a day to help with protein absorption); weigh yourself first thing in the morning after going to the toilet, that's your real weight.
In any case though, congratulations, and keep it up bro!
I've seen people put on like 20lbs in a month .. that's 5lbs a week, though admittedly a little was fat (not much though).
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I weighed myself after a huge **** before breakfast :cheer:Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Ehhh.. you can put that kind of muscular weight on in a couple of weeks or even less (with diet and training in check), but remember some of it will be water weight thanks to increased food intake (carbs retain water, you should be drinking a couple of gallons of water a day to help with protein absorption); weigh yourself first thing in the morning after going to the toilet, that's your real weight.
In any case though, congratulations, and keep it up bro!
I've seen people put on like 20lbs in a month .. that's 5lbs a week, though admittedly a little was fat (not much though).
ha, no problem, that sounded well sarcastic but wasn't meaning to be.Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Um.. sorry mate, didn't mean to undermine your intelligence or anything.
I'm just saying that weight fluctuates quite crazily, but it's possible to put on large amounts of muscle in a short time..
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
yeah..Originally posted by Warboss Alex
I'm still learning too mate.
I bet even old Arnie is ..
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
2. It's nutritional knowledge and an opinion on bulking and cutting; you'll find plenty of trainers out there with similar opinions. It's worded similarly because his post inspired me.(References: DC training)
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.