"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Am i too ugly to pull 'hot' chicks?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You're not ugly. But my opinion nor anyone's opinion on this board should matter to you.
All that matters is that you accept who you are, and everything that comes with being "YOU". Once you have accepted that, you don't need people's validation and approval. You can start being a man and forget about how you qualify to other people
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
He's always smiling and having fun or making fun of someone . All the time .
And when it comes to girls , he's the sh1t . Maybe later ill post some pic's of him ( if he agrees ) and you can see how CAN YOU BE if you had more confidence .
Maybe you should change your style ?
EDIT:wooohooo this is my 1000 post :cheer: :cheer: :rockon:
I have been having great fun here
. Love ya guys (no homo) :flowers: :flowers:"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Not as tight-lipped. I think you're going for "cool." And you can't go for "cool", you just are cool or you're not. And if you're not, embrace not being cool and be the best yourself. There's alot of freedom in not being cool by the way.=Nathan= said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewAlbums2&friendID=268714595&view=true
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Senior Don Juan
Linngggerr Longer!mtlwlu said:
I miss the bad old days where you could just post to "am I hot or not" to get some brutally instant feedback on how you looked.
Corey
Don Juan
but i must say
i strongly dislike that hoodie, maybe beucase where i come from only asian teenagers wear it. Imo it doesn't suit you and your facial expression
go for a clothing style more sophistated and casual
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.