"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Mr. Unique
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WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
If this is a once a week thing, then it's no biggy. But if you're hauling his butt to work every night, then you have a problem. Is there public transportation where you live? He can take a bus.
It's the law of supply & demand: If you supply a ride, you should demand some money to pay for it.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
If you ever find your self asking this question, chances are you're being a pvssy.
If he's paying for your gas and time then fine...If it doesn't bother you, go for it. Nothing wrong with helping out friends.
But if he does nothing in return for the favor, tell him to take the bus.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I assume that this is a daily thing?
It's OK to occasionally give rides if people need them (like if one day their motorcar is in the shop).
It's not OK if it's every day. You are essentially being a taxicab. Taxicabs charge money, so charge accordingly.
Tell him to buy is own damn motorcar.
Ben
ethnomethodologist
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HAHA:crackup:Originally posted by Mr. Unique
Of course you're an assh*le, you should be sucking him off for him letting you live with him.
Really though, if your not getting anything from it than why bother? Be a man and do something usefu with your time. If your mate can catch a bus or hail a cab he should.
Digression is cool though, if you have nothing else to do, driving your friend around is probably the best thing going for you.