"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mr. Unique
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WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
If this is a once a week thing, then it's no biggy. But if you're hauling his butt to work every night, then you have a problem. Is there public transportation where you live? He can take a bus.
It's the law of supply & demand: If you supply a ride, you should demand some money to pay for it.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
If you ever find your self asking this question, chances are you're being a pvssy.
If he's paying for your gas and time then fine...If it doesn't bother you, go for it. Nothing wrong with helping out friends.
But if he does nothing in return for the favor, tell him to take the bus.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I assume that this is a daily thing?
It's OK to occasionally give rides if people need them (like if one day their motorcar is in the shop).
It's not OK if it's every day. You are essentially being a taxicab. Taxicabs charge money, so charge accordingly.
Tell him to buy is own damn motorcar.
Ben
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
HAHA:crackup:Originally posted by Mr. Unique
Of course you're an assh*le, you should be sucking him off for him letting you live with him.
Really though, if your not getting anything from it than why bother? Be a man and do something usefu with your time. If your mate can catch a bus or hail a cab he should.
Digression is cool though, if you have nothing else to do, driving your friend around is probably the best thing going for you.