"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mr. Unique
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WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
If this is a once a week thing, then it's no biggy. But if you're hauling his butt to work every night, then you have a problem. Is there public transportation where you live? He can take a bus.
It's the law of supply & demand: If you supply a ride, you should demand some money to pay for it.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
If you ever find your self asking this question, chances are you're being a pvssy.
If he's paying for your gas and time then fine...If it doesn't bother you, go for it. Nothing wrong with helping out friends.
But if he does nothing in return for the favor, tell him to take the bus.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I assume that this is a daily thing?
It's OK to occasionally give rides if people need them (like if one day their motorcar is in the shop).
It's not OK if it's every day. You are essentially being a taxicab. Taxicabs charge money, so charge accordingly.
Tell him to buy is own damn motorcar.
Ben
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
HAHA:crackup:Originally posted by Mr. Unique
Of course you're an assh*le, you should be sucking him off for him letting you live with him.
Really though, if your not getting anything from it than why bother? Be a man and do something usefu with your time. If your mate can catch a bus or hail a cab he should.
Digression is cool though, if you have nothing else to do, driving your friend around is probably the best thing going for you.