"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Am i an idiet ?

reza

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I need some ones openion on this . i have been friends with my ex girl friend for 2-3 years now , we have both been in many othar relationships since then , but we kinda had a good thing going so we didnt end our friendship . but lately i realised that everytime i fall i am using her as my blanket and i had sex with her whenever i felt desperet . then i realized in my advencture in becoming a dj she is becoming my weekness so i took the blanket away in the most brutal way . then i tought to my self r u an idiet ? why the hell did you do that to the poor girl ? i guess i am just feeling guilty . i hope i did not misinterprete the dj bible . so did i do the right thing ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tryin 2 play

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i think ur asking if ur an idiot, because i dont know what an idiet is. If so, you answered your own question. Sorry i was too amused by this to remember what your post said.
 

lordson

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mate, dont let this site turn you into somebody you're not

let it improve you, gain tips, improve your quality of life

but don't let yourself turn into a pompous, self-loving, arragant a$$hole, (unless thats the kind of person you are already)

though that girl you described did seem alot like a FWB or booty call
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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reza

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well I joined this site like 2 years before you so I guess I am not a Noob i just don’t post , and ... oh ya i did make a typing mistake so sue me . whatever
 

Trapper

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man why you are feeling guilty? u think that she is poor? why? she is also having fun dude...
 

KillaCam

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I'll just say this :

She can look after herself. It's her own responsibility to stay away from trouble and hurt.

Be her friend, not her guard-dog :up:

Always do what you feel is right. It's a fairly simple philosophy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mrRuckus

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reza said:
I need some ones openion on this . i have been friends with my ex girl friend for 2-3 years now
Stop right there. Yes you are. Stop being friends with exes.
 

DJinTraining06

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cyp6 said:
lashing out like this sure sign of ur own insecuritieseszzes., mm wass that spelllleled wron also?
haha jk jk.. be a little nicer... the world is crule enough as it is.

not always, sometimes its just being pisses, or feeling unappareciated. Or misunderstood even. Insecurity is such a general word. People r too complex to be described with "insecure"
 

vorbis

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I would say that it was a great situation reza. Sounds like you got along well with her, had no issues unresolved with her and got to **** her every so often. She probably enjoyed the situation too if she wasn't bringing up getting back together with you. I don't see a reason why this would be a bad situation.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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reza

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Well I don’t know how you handle your exes vorbis But if I say I never had any thought (or even better “ hope”) of getting back to her I would be lying I mean its not practically possible to be completely friends with some one , once you had some emotional or/and physical contacts. Despite all this I agree with what you are saying, that having some one like this around makes you feel good or at least not desperate and depressed when you are supposed to be. But the question is “Is that worth the weakness which you are creating by becoming dependent on this illusion of comfort. I say illusion cause I think a dj is defined as some one who is able to look ahead in life and be able to grasp on every new opportunity that pops up on the way . and the only time that he looks back is to learn from his mistakes . So in my own mind I just removed an obstacle. Something which was supposed to be over in the past. so that I can have a better view of the future .
 
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