"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Am i an idiet ?

reza

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I need some ones openion on this . i have been friends with my ex girl friend for 2-3 years now , we have both been in many othar relationships since then , but we kinda had a good thing going so we didnt end our friendship . but lately i realised that everytime i fall i am using her as my blanket and i had sex with her whenever i felt desperet . then i realized in my advencture in becoming a dj she is becoming my weekness so i took the blanket away in the most brutal way . then i tought to my self r u an idiet ? why the hell did you do that to the poor girl ? i guess i am just feeling guilty . i hope i did not misinterprete the dj bible . so did i do the right thing ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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tryin 2 play

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i think ur asking if ur an idiot, because i dont know what an idiet is. If so, you answered your own question. Sorry i was too amused by this to remember what your post said.
 

lordson

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mate, dont let this site turn you into somebody you're not

let it improve you, gain tips, improve your quality of life

but don't let yourself turn into a pompous, self-loving, arragant a$$hole, (unless thats the kind of person you are already)

though that girl you described did seem alot like a FWB or booty call
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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reza

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well I joined this site like 2 years before you so I guess I am not a Noob i just don’t post , and ... oh ya i did make a typing mistake so sue me . whatever
 

Trapper

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man why you are feeling guilty? u think that she is poor? why? she is also having fun dude...
 

KillaCam

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I'll just say this :

She can look after herself. It's her own responsibility to stay away from trouble and hurt.

Be her friend, not her guard-dog :up:

Always do what you feel is right. It's a fairly simple philosophy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mrRuckus

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reza said:
I need some ones openion on this . i have been friends with my ex girl friend for 2-3 years now
Stop right there. Yes you are. Stop being friends with exes.
 

DJinTraining06

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cyp6 said:
lashing out like this sure sign of ur own insecuritieseszzes., mm wass that spelllleled wron also?
haha jk jk.. be a little nicer... the world is crule enough as it is.

not always, sometimes its just being pisses, or feeling unappareciated. Or misunderstood even. Insecurity is such a general word. People r too complex to be described with "insecure"
 

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I would say that it was a great situation reza. Sounds like you got along well with her, had no issues unresolved with her and got to **** her every so often. She probably enjoyed the situation too if she wasn't bringing up getting back together with you. I don't see a reason why this would be a bad situation.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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reza

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Well I don’t know how you handle your exes vorbis But if I say I never had any thought (or even better “ hope”) of getting back to her I would be lying I mean its not practically possible to be completely friends with some one , once you had some emotional or/and physical contacts. Despite all this I agree with what you are saying, that having some one like this around makes you feel good or at least not desperate and depressed when you are supposed to be. But the question is “Is that worth the weakness which you are creating by becoming dependent on this illusion of comfort. I say illusion cause I think a dj is defined as some one who is able to look ahead in life and be able to grasp on every new opportunity that pops up on the way . and the only time that he looks back is to learn from his mistakes . So in my own mind I just removed an obstacle. Something which was supposed to be over in the past. so that I can have a better view of the future .
 
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